My mum and dad kindly treated us to a family break at Center Parcs in Sherwood Forest a couple of weeks ago. In short, we had the BEST time and found everything about it relieved my hub of his, at times, gripping Bipolar and each activity unlocked a pocket of happiness and joy for us all. Here’s our review of a Mentally Healthy Break… Continue reading “Our Mentally Healthy holiday at Center Parcs”
“Oh HOW inconsiderate of her” you may say. But the social exclusion my husband and I feel from not being able to talk about his condition feels really cruel sometimes.
So I got to thinking about people I’ve known with Cancer and how they’ve wanted close friends to support them, but some just couldn’t. Continue reading “Cancer advice suitable for mental health support”
What do you buy someone who wants everything and nothing? Here’s review of 6 gifts I bought my hub (whose birthday is today 🎉 !)
I started with one of his triggers – lack of sleep and worked from there. Continue reading “I got my Bipolar hub to score his birthday gifts!”
I won’t lie. Babies can totally mess with your head.
Self doubt, lack of sleep, relationship changes, missing the old you….
It’s frickin intense.
So when i got this message from my heavily pregnant best friend (who is completely bricking it/in denial) I was surprised….
It turns out i’ve probably had this ‘wisdom’ for about 4 and half years according to results from a survey by Nurofen for Children.
They found that most first time mums felt confident after about 6 months. So what on earth could this advice have been that i shared with my friend?
*Racks tired brain*
- Wear a long sleeved nightie with buttons down front for breastfeeding
Night time feeds are COLD, so my motto is to get your boobs out and keep your arms warm. In that Nurofen survey, 69% of new mums said they felt knackered. I know from experience how sleep deprivation can impact parent’s health (but don’t let that scare you), keep snuggly.
- Never EVER Google
For reliable and unscary web info, start with established sites like Mumsnet.com and Netmums.com. For health, nhs.uk is great, and brand’s websites/Facebook often have expert and mum chat too.
- Don’t pretend you know what you’re doing
Good news! You WILL have mother’s instinct! Bad news – you won’t believe it for months. Baby’s health, feeding and sleep patterns will be your biggest grey hair creator (as backed up by that survey), so do ask and accept help. Some stuff will seem weird; I remember squirting breast milk into my daughter’s eye to get rid of conjunctivitis. Randomly, it worked.
Other topics we covered
- Get a dog walker for the early days – babies do not leave on demand
- Don’t freeze breast milk – you can, but the whole process is such a faff
- Freeze food instead – cook now, eat later
- Buy a nappy bag with zips galore – you’ll keep everything in it
- You can reheat cups of tea in the microwave – who knew?!
- Gauge temperature by kissing forehead – amazing trick
I don’t know when my ‘turning’ point was, confidence creeps up on you with each nappy change, but it does happen.But whenever it happens…it does happen. And it’s a really wonderful realisation, so hang on in there.
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Please note that this post is not intended to contain any medical advice. Always contact your own doctor or health professional if you have any concerns about your child’s health.
(i) Survey of 2,000 parents with a baby under 6 years old, commissioned by Nurofen for Children (May 2014)
(ii) Survey of 2,000 mums by One Poll, commissioned by Nurofen for Children (October 2013)
This year Christmas has a bonus layer of added expectations from a 5 year old who is ‘wet-my-pants i’ll-stay-up-ALL-night’ excited about the prospect of a stranger scaling our roof and breaking in.
So in order for me to keep this, err, magic alive for the bipolar depressed and excited among us, i’ve put together my survival pack of ideas to make sure it goes swimmingly.
1. We’ll ignore the calendar
So the plan is to plan to be flexible.If my hub knows from the outset the type of things we have planned, but is assured that if he’s overwhelmed or can’t face it, than all will be cool, then all the better.
2. I’m on kitchen strike
I don’t have time to bake gingerbread houses or squeeze the teats of reindeers to make the most authentic homemade eggnog. Not this year anyway. Ikea do a great ready made gingerbread house and places like Cook or Iceland have some superb food. It’s one day. ONE day. Prawn ring anyone?
3. Buy small, wrap big.
I love this one. It involves degrees of deception. From the end of October i scour the shops for boxes. FYI: Homebase is a good shout. I collect said boxes and even if i’ve bought one frickin Shopkin, it goes in a jumbo box, wrapped in poundland paper. Same goes for socks, pants and anything else. Et voila, Christmas morning wow factor (shortly followed by ‘is that all i got this year?’ but by then we’re all getting sugar hits from the smarties tube that’s being passed around).
4. Employ the Booze Police
Things we do for love hey? My husband loves a festive tipple but too many tipples creates a whirlwind of emotions, which i’m not standing for this year. It’s my Christmas too and in this case we know booze can be a trigger. So we’ve had the chat and he will drive if we visit relatives or we’ll make sure we’re drinking plenty of water in between glasses. Boring, but 100% practical.
5. We’ll be separating (for a bit)
Even for the mentally healthy amongst us, Christmas is pretty intense. So this year, we will be carving out some personal time and give each other space. For him it may be sleep, getting to the gym or cleaning (see previous blog) and for me it may be watching a film, playing ‘shops’ with my daughter – again. Or sticking my headphones on for some music relief. We’re better together when we’re sometimes apart.
5.5 Be you, have fun.
It’s obvious right? No. We all put too much pressure on. In the words of that great lyricist, Queen Elsa (If you have children then you’ll know what i’m saying)….Let it go, let it go, don’t hold it back any more.
If you have some tips to share i would LOVE to hear them. Maybe you have a mental health condition and would like to say what you would like. I’d be very interested to hear.
Thanks for reading and let the festivities commence. x
Exercising with a 5 year old
Now, i’d rather stick pins in my eyes and eat my own vomit rather than go for a run. I’m more of a team player – Netball if you want to know, and no more so than when it comes to my family. So we (I) decided that we should get active and involve our daughter too.
Good role models and all that.